Are You Having Trouble Saying No?
How often do you find yourself whispering “YES” with your mouth when the rest of your being is screaming “NO, NO, NO!”? So many of us are prone to this. Here's how you can go from conforming to confident!
How often do you find yourself whispering “YES” with your mouth when the rest of your being is screaming “NO, NO, NO!”?
So many of us are prone to this.
Our reasons? We are:
- trying to AVOID CONFRONTATION
- attempting to KEEP THE PEACE
- struggling NOT to HURT SOMEONE’S FEELINGS
But to what end? Are we really keeping the peace? Is it even possible to spare someone’s feelings 100% of the time?
If you’ve lived into your twenties you have experienced countless situations where - no matter how good your intent, character, and attempts at compromise - someone winds up hurt, disappointed or upset.
And what we sacrifice for such a flawed process? Our INNER PEACE.
By saying “yes” when we mean “no”, we are disturbing our inner peace. Only YOU are RESPONSIBLE for your INNER PEACE, and if you don't prioritize it, you are training others to do the same!
Learning to say “NO” when you mean “NO” comes with 4 MAJOR BENEFITS:
- you SET HEALTHIER BOUNDARIES
- you TRAIN OTHERS to RESPECT those boundaries
- you FIND YOUR VOICE
- you LEARN TO LET GO
If this HABIT is one you have developed and refined like so many others, TRANSITIONING to YOUR TRUTH will be difficult. Those who have benefited in the past from your constant complying will especially challenge you, as they are unaccustomed to it.
Now, you may be asking: HOW do I GO from CONFORMING to CONFIDENT?
START with an INVENTORY of the people you have a hard time speaking and sharing your truth with. ANSWER the following questions to begin your list:
- Who DRAINS YOU?
- Who STIFLES YOUR GROWTH?
- Who are those who DO NOT LISTEN or SILENCE YOU?
Then have an HONEST CONVERSATION about how you feel with those in your inventory. Be ready for some to be unreceptive. And with those who are receptive, your new relationship will flourish!
We have created a FREE downloadable worksheet to assist you in getting closer to YOUR TRUTH! Complete the form below to receive an immediate download in your inbox!
MY TRUTH WORKSHEET
Remember, if you continue to IGNORE your INNER VOICE and needs, the STRESS WILL BUILD UP and you will be putting your MENTAL HEALTH IN JEOPARDY.
Always, always say, “YES!” to your PEACE OF MIND!
Have a great week!
Re-Discover Your Inner Strength
We MUST all do a better job at shifting to a positive mindset and taking a few minutes out of every day to reflect on all our victories — large and small!
We have created a convenient "Inner Strength" Worksheet to help you with this. If you are stuck on the “whys” and “what ifs”, this worksheet is tailored to help you re-discover your inner strength and focus on your “winning” moments instead! Enjoy!
I get it. You are swamped with all the extra responsibilities and social obligations that the end of the year brings. I also understand that this is the season for self-evaluation — most of it done in a negative and highly destructive manner!
Last week I proposed that the Counseling Space tribe complete a brief “Look in the Mirror” Exercise designed to help you turn your attention from what could have been to WHAT IS.
For those who didn’t get a chance to visit the Counseling Space website to complete the exercise, I am now including a convenient “Inner Strength Worksheet” in the body of today’s post.
The questions included in the worksheet are not unlike those I ask clients who may be stuck on the “whys” and “what ifs” instead of focusing on their “winning” moments! This worksheet is specifically tailored to encourage you to take stock of all your accomplishments (large and small), remind you of your inner strength, and nourish your spirit!
COMPLETE the FORM below to receive immediate downloads of ALL 3 worksheet pages!
INNER STRENGTH WORKSHEET
If you would like to discuss any revelations and breakthroughs after completing the “Inner Strength Worksheet”, please CLICK the BUTTON below to schedule a FREE 30-MINUTE Inner Strength Boost Session! These sessions are ONLY valid until November 24th.
We MUST all do a better job at shifting to a positive mindset.
Let’s hold each other accountable to take a few minutes out of every day to reflect on all our victories — large and small!
Have a great week!
Look in the Mirror
The end of the year is approaching, and our minds are preoccupied with shopping, holiday preparations, year-end performance reviews and — most of all — our own personal life evaluations. In this post, we share a brief “Look in the Mirror” Exercise with you. It is designed to help you turn your attention from what could have been to what is!
There are 56 days left in the year. Let’s approach them with a feeling of achievement, so that we may end 2017 on a triumphant note!
The end of the year is approaching, and our minds are preoccupied with shopping, holiday preparations, year-end performance reviews and — most of all — our own personal life evaluations.
As we turn back the clock and the days get shorter and colder, we are often reminded of the resolutions, goals, and plans that we had just last January. And I don’t know if it’s the winter blues, but we all fall into the trap of focusing on all the things we didn’t do rather than on the things we actually accomplished — no matter how small!
This is why I am sharing this brief “Look in the Mirror” Exercise with you. It is designed to help you turn your attention from what could have been to WHAT IS!
LOOK IN THE MIRROR EXERCISE
Note: Please find a quiet space where you will be uninterrupted for 12 – 15 minutes.
Q: What are 3 things (big or small) that you have accomplished this year? Write these down.
1. _______________________________
2. _______________________________
3. _______________________________
As you look at your list of accomplishments, think on the following:
1. Was it planned?
2. When did it happen?
3. Who helped you?
4. What helped you?
Note: Please take a few minutes to be silent as you gather your thoughts and complete the exercise.
How did completing this personal inventory feel to you? Did you think you wouldn’t be able to find 3 accomplishments until you made this space to think about it? Did it also help you recognize just how many resources around you go unnoticed or under-appreciated?
If you did, no worries, we ALL do it.
However, we MUST do a better job at shifting to a positive mindset. And this means taking a few minutes out of every day to reflect on the present moment.
Have a great week!