Your Mental Health Needs Perspective
No, we are not late, instead, we decided to wait.
We decided not to go on social media immediately after the tragic loss of a highly respected sports icon. Although many used social media platforms as a tool to express their grief and shock we are aware that there are individuals who were triggered due to their personal experiences. Perhaps, for some, seeing tragedy dominate their social media feed shifted their mood and led them to avoid social media altogether. We also can’t help to think about those who are the loved ones of the victims who learned about the loss on social media and are now constantly reminded by quotes, clips, and other images.
Many of our clients have been sharing their feelings about the loss and how it has triggered unexpected feelings. This is not surprising.
It’s important to realize that moments of loss require spaces for grief, shock, and other mixed emotions. However, during this phase, perspective on life is often disregarded.
Unfortunately, we are often ONLY reminded of the superficial cliches of "life is short" and "live it to the fullest." LIVING WELL isn't just about checking items off a bucket list or living in the moment, but living with self-awareness, self-compassion, and openness.
We want to remind you of the HEALING POWER of having a healthy perspective on life.
Here are THREE (3) ways to nurture a healthy perspective on life:
Seek progress and not perfection. This applies to you and your loved ones. Be honest when you look for perfection, and understand that you are risking comparison and that will lead to a host of unhealthy feelings of inadequacy for your mental health. Instead ask, "Am I making progress in life and are my relationships evolving to deeper mutual connection and understanding?"
Be aware that forgiveness has a different meaning for everyone. Are you still waiting for forgiveness from someone who, possibly, does not share the same meaning or value of forgiveness as you do? Are you giving someone the power to force you to carry emotional weight? Forgive yourself for not knowing, for being scared to move forward, for holding on to emotions that caused stagnation in your life. We have a right to ask that forgiveness is received or accepted but it should be done willingly and not forced. “I’m sorry” is a powerful and healing statement when said to ourselves and others.
Live in acceptance. We have to accept that we do not leave this earth without suffering battles, some of which we will win and others we will lose and learn from. Also, remember that battles are not conquered alone. If you are facing a battle, you don’t have to do it alone. There is always someone out there who has walked or is walking the same path and understands.
Be aware, compassionate, and patient with yourself when struggling with your mental health. Healing is a journey that starts with you. Why not choose this VERY moment to have a NEW perspective on life — and not wait for another tragedy to do so.